If husband does not want a child

Not all our husbands are ready to become fathers since the moment of family creation. Even after several years of a family life they are still morally unprepared for childbirth, then it becomes already a real problem that can cause various consequences.

If after some time your husband is still unprepared to have a child, do not wait for that happy moment for years, but analyze his behavior on this early stage and try to understand the problem. You should also remember following:

It is quite normal that during first time a man and woman sense different feelings (often contradictory) concerning their parental role. Future parents are often afraid that after childbirth they will lose their own freedom, have no time for entertainment, and lose a feeling that they can do everything in this world forever. Thought of children frightens everybody at first, especially those who have strained relationships with their own parents. A partner fear and uncertainty towards children is quite a normal thing. However, to overcome this problem, you need to talk more about children, giving your partner understanding that your family will become even happier and stronger after childbirth, but you will still have your own spare time.

Women and men prepare for parenting in different ways, someone needs more time, others less. A woman realizes she is pregnant earlier than her husband, she feels changes and is already prepared psychologically to become a mother since the moment of a baby first motions.

Men prefer denying changes in their lives, they understand they will soon become fathers, however, they still cannot feel these changes completely, as it is a woman who bears a baby. As a rule, husbands start understanding a father role only several months after childbirth.

You need to understand that a husband refusal from childbirth does not mean he does not want children. Most often he feels fear, so you should not treat your husband behavior as his unwillingness seeing you as a mother. To help your husband coping with the fear of childbirth, join your friends and close people who already have children to your problem. Ask them telling that the world does not change to bad after childbirth, ways of merry pastime with the whole family, how many pleasant moments their children presented them.

If you are already expecting a baby, give your husband understanding that now you need his support and comprehension as never before, try to explain his negative attitude to the situation makes you suffering and being depressed.

After you talk to your husband abut his fears, prepare him for a sincere conversation, during which you would try solving the problem of fatherhood together.