Want to change your husband?

Unfortunately, many women know this phenomenon, when in the course of time husbands change, and their relation to wives changes, accordingly. Many say there are no ways of overcoming of this problem. But we know they exist!

A love boat was broken due to everyday life… How many married couples are ready to agree with this phrase! Alas, toilet paper on a toilet bowl cover sometimes is more terrible threat to marriage, than matrimonial change. And as though girls did not convince themselves that, having married, they will not spoil husbands’ and their own blood because of household problems, this nevertheless does not turn out in any way.

Habit is a second nature. You even do not represent, how it is difficult to refuse them! But will feel to the full when you will try to learn a husband putting his socks in this basket and open a milk package with scissors, instead of a knife. He cannot understand in any way why you so are upset with roughly picked corner of polyethylene. And you also cannot explain it, but continue to be angry.

Many psychologists connect a problem of modern marriages instability with the fact they are executed in rather late age. By 25-30 years you already have certain habits, and refusing them is extremely difficult. And it is much easier for a 20-year-old woman to “be arranged” under her husband. However, too early marriages effected before 20 years, are also undesirable. In such tender age character and outlook on life were not generated yet, and a person makes a choice unwittingly.

Wise mums very often repeat to daughters: Remember - you cannot alter a man. However, listening to mums is unfashionable today, and unshakable true can be learnt only on a private experience. As a heroine of a popular serial spoke, you can change only a man’s clothes and hairdress, and still there will problems with it. If you still believe force of love is capable to cure an inveterate addict, transform a rude fellow into intellectual, and idler in a hard worker, re-read “Oblomov”.

You cannot change “material” a man is made of. But it is possible to “facet” it by means of competent education. As a rule, a woman tries to make it through a method of constant reproaches. Alas, this way is not only inefficient, but also extremely harmful. So, what to do? Neglect everything? Certainly, no. It is necessary to be engaged in education, but through other methods.

First of all, estimate initial material. Remember: if a man does not beat, drink, is not drug addicted, he is a good man. If in addition he can work and even earn, he is an excellent man. Bulged ears and foolish words - trifles similar to a picked milk package.

You should bring up your husband from the first day of a honeymoon. But women usually “bethink” little later, when a man has already decided that washing ware and vacuuming carpet are not his duties. It is even better even to find out, whether he is ready to share household routine with you yet before wedding. Majority of men, strangely enough, agree that helping wife on economy is not shameful.

Besides, it is necessary to understand, what degree of cleanliness is necessary for him. Perhaps, he needs only buckwheat with a cutlet for a supper and washing vacuum cleaning once a week. And maybe, you will have to wash floors twice a day and master Italian cuisine secrets. In the latter case it is better to think, whether it is necessary to connect your life with such person in general.

Sending a husband to shop for products, you risk to receive not that you required. But you should not give up this thought. At first, go for purchases together with him. Thus he learns, what washing powder and oil for frying you prefer. Then be limited only to the list of products. Sooner or later a husband will catch laws of your taste and learn buying everything by himself.

Involving your beloved in cooking is difficult enough. Here you can go on cunning. Men like every possible artful adaptations very much. Having got a modern microwave and represented that you can not learn working with it, you will open your husband a fine possibility to show a class. Just do not forget to admire his culinary masterpieces! Spice-cake in home life is, as a rule, much more effective than whip.

Instead of constant monotonous reproaches use logic arguments. For example, explain that if have no time for yourself, you will grow fat and become ugly quickly.

Apply radical methods. If you do not like your husband’s clothes, do not reproach him with it every morning. Choose the right time and throw out old things from his case, having replaced them with new ones. You will manage a maximum one storm. Then a man will get used to a new image. However, you should buy clothes together with him, so that he would not buy a shapeless grey sweater again.

And never forget about praise! A flower will never blossom without watering. Very many well-known people said their wives helped them achieving successes. This are not flattery and aspiration to please, but fact ascertaining. If you constantly explain your man he is the best, support him in all undertakings, unostentatiously giving advice, he will find self-trust and rush to realise his talents. The result will not keep you waiting.