Infidelity: how to avoid

Anyone can cheat. If a combination of important reasons and worthy occasions provokes you doing this. Without it infidelity is awful and harmful evil. But whatever one may do, the reason of infidelity always roots in ourselves.

A husband only gives you an occasion which plays a role of the trigger mechanism of infidelity. There are few reasons in marriage, but many occasions, alas.

So, what to do, not to admit infidelity?

1. Cease suspecting him of infidelity constantly

Suspicions kill relations. There are such moral masochists, who are simply vital to tell fortunes at a leisure ?whether second half cheats or not. Similar impulses become especially active at conversations with %26#8220;suffered%26#8221; friends or girlfriends. Here thoughts about whom he is with now start crowding in a head, whether he (she) cheats, while I%26#8217;m working here? Be cautious, similar turn can outgrow in a clinical form. The following stage ?shadowing.

2. Do not watch your partner at all.

Even if there are some suspicions, proved by some indirect facts or certificates, it is not necessary to open hunting. As a rule, girl-friends, grandmothers and detectives are involved in it. People resort to the help of various dodges and provocations. There are lots of organisations which can offer on a choice an attractive individual to %26#8220;seduce%26#8221; your loved one. Don%26#8217;t you think it is very silly? According to statistics, about 80 % of men peck on this dodge. It turns out, even young men who did not cheat before, actually put horns.

I will result a joke: a wife, suspecting her husband of adultery, sends a son to chase him. Having returned an hour later, son informs his mum: %26#8220;Daddy went to a shop. On a road he met a woman and took her into his car and went with it to a secluded corner of wood. From bushes I saw, how they absolutely naked%26#8230;%26#8221;. %26#8220;The rest you will tell in the evening at supper%26#8221;, - mother interrupts. There has come a supper. The son repeats the whole story to a family and finishes with such words: %26#8220;And then%26#8230; And then daddy did the same as mum did with our neighbour, when she stay alone at home%26#8221;.

3. Learn to trust!

If you noticed some signs telling of adultery, do not hurry up with negative conclusions. Think, maybe justifications you loved one shows, actually are true.

4. Remember: there is also your fault in treasury.

Majority is inclined to accuse everybody, only not themselves. At the same time, it is known long ago that adultery follows from dissatisfaction both physical, and moral. In particular, impossibility of expression of such delicate thing, as sexual imagination leads to it.

Experts confirm, if imaginations do not find an exit in sex within the limits of a family, a husband or a wife will seek pleasures elsewhere. There is a question: who should start? Certainly, the one who is a leader of a married couple. Sometimes these are wives, but more often - husbands. If a family leader does not start a conversation, a weak partner will never open. If a partner waves away from offers to talk on this theme or is even rude, it is a sign of that there is a serious emotional rupture between you.

Emotional bond is an indispensable condition of that a partner will want to tell something. And still it is necessarily to keep in mind: a family partner can tell only about those imaginations in which he can take part, which do not offend him and will bring pleasure to him.

So, just try to understand, (if all the same it has occurred) what has induced your loved one on adultery. Who knows, maybe your relations just lack sincerity and understanding?